Social Graces: Conversation

An elegant woman does not chatter. She does not wear her heart on her sleeve for all to see. Revealing all of her personal life at work or at play is not in good taste. Chattering is boring and does not make you sought out. Of course one may share her fondest dreams and some personal matters with a close friend in private. This is the best discretion to use. The elegant woman rarely talks about herself. She participates in conversations with utmost care for her dignity as well as her reputation. She does not divulge her thoughts on the latest controversial subject nor does she involve herself in political discussions. Instead she prefers to listen intently and remain neutral. If she has a strong opinion or criticism she keeps it to herself in order to maintain her character. An elegant woman keeps a smile on her face that is genuine and kind. She makes a point of not staying in one place too long during a social gathering but rather, mingles around the room to greet and meet everyone so as not to offend or neglect anyone. As a hostess she sees to it that all in attendance feel welcome and as comfortable as is appropriate. She does not hurry her conversation or voice the triumphs of her children often. An elegant woman remains positive and polite. She steers away from negative conversations and never complains. She may express frustrations to close friends in private only as a means to find a solution. She sees and speaks of the good in everyone as much as possible.

Social Graces: On Being Punctual

Being elegant means being “put together”. An elegant woman is always punctual, reliable, and makes an entrance gracefully. She would never arrive late, only to go on about how busy she is and how many important things she had to do. Elegance is not chaotic.

How does one be consistently punctual?

*Organization is key.

Always keep a schedule whether it is in a notebook or smart phone, keeping an accurate schedule is essential. Make it a habit to consistently check it the day before so as to be able to be prepared for the coming day.

* Gather any special materials you might need for the next days activities the day before or the week before depending on how labor intense the preparations may be.

*Always keep things in good repair.

Make certain that everything from your clothes to your car are in the best condition possible. This lessens the likelihood of something falling apart, your car not starting, or unacceptable clothing creating a crisis.

*Don’tĀ over commit.

It does impress anyone that you have to rush from one commitment to the next. Some people believe that this makes them worthy or sought out. Its just simply egotistical and annoying. Politely decline an invitation should your schedule already be full. Never cancel or not attend an event just because something better came along. Once you accept an invitation then you should attend.

*Leave plenty of time.

Having an elegant morning routine that allows you the surety of knowing the length of your preparation time is very helpful in attending important events as well as volunteer obligations and the workplace. Give yourself plenty of time to prepare for and travel to the event.

*Upon arrival collect yourself and quietly enter the event, even if it is just your regular workplace. Excuse yourself to the ladies room to efficiently check hair, makeup and clothing so as to make a lovely first impression to anyone. Then walk away from the mirror and forget about making too frequent trips to the ladies room. Overdoing the primping is not elegant. One wants to seem effortlessly put together.

*Mingle and make polite conversation as you pay attention to carrying yourself with poise, quiet confidence, and grace. Never stand in the corner and scowl. Being punctual will always put you in the spotlight. Others that know you will want to seek you out because you are reliable and pleasant to be around.